How Does Pickleball Impact Your Relationships?
With Valentine’s Day around the corner, February is the month we tend to focus on our “special” relationship (or lack there of).
So I thought it would be appropriate this month to take a look at how pickleball impacts and influences our relationships.
As you may know, my wife, Wendy, and I learned to play the game at the same time, and we were both immediate fans of the sport. We played together, traveled together, competed together and are now in the pickleball business together. (Heck, we wrote the book on pickleball—together!)
While we are lucky enough to get along extremely well together in most of those domains, I’ll be the first to admit that she’s threatened “pickleball partner divorce” on me more than a few times when we play in tournaments.
And on those days when I go play by myself, later on she tells me pretty clearly, pretty quickly just when she’s heard enough of the “shot by shot” analysis of my morning of play. (Happily, when we do go play pickleball together, she will re-hash shots with me ’til the cows come home…)
Overall, I’d say we’re both pickleball fanatics but not equally so. Between my work, my passion for the game, and our growing family, I definitely spend a lot more time in what we affectionally call “Pickleball-Landia” than Wendy does.
So that’s a quick look at the nature of our relationship as it relates to pickleball.
But of course, we are just one example…
And those are just a few of the variations of couples where both partners play.
We’ve had plenty of times when we go out to dinner with a pickleball friend and their non-pickleball-playing spouse. It’s a true challenge to keep every topic of conversation from turning back toward pickleball.
I swear, there isn’t a topic that exists that can’t be brought round to pickleball one way or another!
And yet, I have seen how this tendency can quickly lead to a new friend who is sitting at the table with eyes glazed over, daydreaming about something—anything—other than pickleball…
It seems that there are a couple variations of these spouses. There is the calm and benevolent partner, who interacts with the afflicted loved one with a high degree of patience and understanding. (Much like they might treat a well-loved aging dog with incontinence issues…) 🙂
But then there are the spouses who are, understandably, driven a bit mad themselves. They are still mourning the loss of their beloved partner. Perhaps they are reflecting on the days when weekend breakfast was a leisurely time of shared companionship, rather than a quick peck on the cheek while grabbing a granola bar and and shouting a brief, “Love ya! See you later, Honey!” They are struggling to make peace with the foreign, new addict they are now sharing a bed and a home with, perhaps even resenting this person who lives, breaths and talks pickleball morning ’til night…
Over time, pickleball fanaticism has even been known to be a contributing factor in the demise of a long-term relationship. Of course, at the other end of the spectrum, there are plenty of couples whose relationship was born and continues to flourish on the pickleball court.
This month, I challenge you to take a good honest look at how pickleball is affecting your relationships with your loved ones.
How is Pickleball Weakening Your Relationships?
What decision will you make today to change these destructive patterns?
And equally as important…